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I don’t know if I should be pissed about Donovan Sharpe and his incel bullshit about you or laugh.

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Alison, As one of your fanboys I find it hard to believe that you have trouble finding a bf. It does seem like you should get out of LA and off Tinder. Like you I'm nostalgic for the olden days. I'm dating myself.. My golden age of dating was Yahoo personals on a dial up modem. It was text based as pictures would take over an hour to download. As a nerdy introvert who didn't do single bars, this tool was a godsend. I met many interesting and smart women who didn't fit the ideal body type and some became friends and a few lovers. I agree that things have changed for the worse with the highly visual dating apps with the expectation of instant hook up. I know that it isn't easy for you in that sort of market and wish you well in your pursuit. I would urge you to persist and see yourself as an educator looking for guys who are open minded and willing to text and speak with you for extensive periods of time. During my time on Yahoo personals I was open minded and learned much about women and myself from the process of meeting a series of lovely plus sized women who I would not have met otherwise. So keep believing in yourself and proceed with care and stick to strategy that gives you some better options. Maybe that means Bumble? Whatever you do, pay attention to early warning signs and don't bother with guys that make you uncomfortable or want to talk sex right away. I would be happy to be your pen pal with no expectation of a date. I recognize I don't meet your criteria and am at peace with that.

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