What I have learned on this planet is one can't truly presume or assume traits between the genders. My other comment is to be honest, women "ARE" in general going to be hornier then guys over the full arc of life time. Why? The act of sex in heterosexual engagement is tremendously dangerous for women. The end act of sex (pregnancy) can literally kill her (even soon in some red states), so to actively say mommy is horny feed the beautiful and delicious beast "NOW" take a lot.
If I personalize this from my rose colored glasses, I am highly charged and kinky AF, but I need connection to go crazy and be happy. I don't just randomly connect, but on the flip side I don't expect my partner to follow my belief structures, so if they need some extra as long as they are clean, safe, open, and honest that is the core and most important thing.
But hide things or purposely keep the secrets (aka in the old days as on the down low) nope, that is an ender for me. Gee, makes me sound more like a woman in a traditional scoped view no?
I had a close friend for whom we broke apart (long story isn't it all a long one?), and I now can reflect on it from years ahead and I can see she just was interested in random cock with the safety of knowing the person as a friend. That was her thing, she needed to get some and have dudes in different "ports" or cities and that made her happy. Blinded by the past, I didn't see it or get it and had my own shit, but I now know that even if the stars aligned, it would not have lasted (unless it was for a a monthly / quarterly type thing of FWB.
Not for me (at this point in my life), but hey we are all beautifully and amazingly different. Just like you who are amazing and have needs and desires and fuck patriarchal standards and conditioning as it never made anyone happy except those that are limited in bed. I mean if you are going to have collars, chains and restraints at least have safewords with out the need for a pair of lawyers in the end ...
What I have learned on this planet is one can't truly presume or assume traits between the genders. My other comment is to be honest, women "ARE" in general going to be hornier then guys over the full arc of life time. Why? The act of sex in heterosexual engagement is tremendously dangerous for women. The end act of sex (pregnancy) can literally kill her (even soon in some red states), so to actively say mommy is horny feed the beautiful and delicious beast "NOW" take a lot.
If I personalize this from my rose colored glasses, I am highly charged and kinky AF, but I need connection to go crazy and be happy. I don't just randomly connect, but on the flip side I don't expect my partner to follow my belief structures, so if they need some extra as long as they are clean, safe, open, and honest that is the core and most important thing.
But hide things or purposely keep the secrets (aka in the old days as on the down low) nope, that is an ender for me. Gee, makes me sound more like a woman in a traditional scoped view no?
I had a close friend for whom we broke apart (long story isn't it all a long one?), and I now can reflect on it from years ahead and I can see she just was interested in random cock with the safety of knowing the person as a friend. That was her thing, she needed to get some and have dudes in different "ports" or cities and that made her happy. Blinded by the past, I didn't see it or get it and had my own shit, but I now know that even if the stars aligned, it would not have lasted (unless it was for a a monthly / quarterly type thing of FWB.
Not for me (at this point in my life), but hey we are all beautifully and amazingly different. Just like you who are amazing and have needs and desires and fuck patriarchal standards and conditioning as it never made anyone happy except those that are limited in bed. I mean if you are going to have collars, chains and restraints at least have safewords with out the need for a pair of lawyers in the end ...